28/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

Some weeks ago I was walking down the street of a big Italian city and I heard these two pieces of conversations:

-          One lady was talking with a friend about another person and she said: “She did not accept my flowers, I would have slapped her”

-          Another lady was talking on the self-phone saying: “ I don’t know how he can be so stupid, it is just a question of a key, it does not require a great intelligence to understand it”

I was horrified.

I don’t know if it is because of the heat or people have gone completely out of centre.

Everything in the Universe is energy. Are they aware of how much negative energy they are putting out in the Universe, and so contributing to the general problems we are experiencing? What we put out, gets back to us. Are they aware of that?

And very importantly, are they aware of how very abusive their words were? Would they mind if they were treated in the same way? Are they aware of the effects their words and behaviors can have on the self-esteem and confidence of the people they were judging? Are they ready to recognize their words and behaviors, take responsibility for them, apologize and heal themselves? Are these people respecting themselves, as what they say, is never about the people they say, but it reflects the speaker?

Every person without exception deserves respect as a precious and unique human being.

Here are some definitions of respect:

- according to Wikipedia “ Respect denotes both a positive feeling of esteem for a person or other entity (such as a nation or a religion), and also specific actions and conduct representative of that esteem.”

-  according to the Webster online dictionary, respect means: “esteem, regard, consideration, honor”

“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
Carl Gustav Jung

“We only see what we are”.
Debbie Ford 

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.”
Mother Teresa of Calcutta

“I’m not concerned with your liking or disliking me… All I ask is that you respect me as a human being.”
Jackie Robinson

“Tolerance implies a respect for another person, not because he is wrong or even because he is right, but because he is human.”
John Cogley Commonweal “The capacity for getting along with our neighbor depends to a large extent on the capacity for getting along with ourselves. The self-respecting individual will try to be as tolerant of his neighbor’s shortcomings as he is of his own.”
Eric Hoffer 

LOVE YOURSELF

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25/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

Suppose somebody has wronged you, has made you suffer profoundly, has caused you anger, has limited your entire life.

Now, let us suppose there is a way in which you can find the freedom from all of these negative feelings…

Forgiveness does not come from the person, it comes from God, or however you wish to call it.

When you surrender, a shift will happen in your mind, and you are able to forgive the people who did that to you.

Forgiveness is not condoning, it is recognizing what they did, and it is saying like Jesus said: “Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing.” Luke 23:34.

Ask for help for forgiveness and you will experience a profound freedom and peace and as if your heart will open wide to Love.

Your life will truly never be the same.

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25/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

I was reading in a group about people doubting on the existence of God. If a person is doubting on the existence of God is because he/she has never experienced God. When you experience God, it is an experience one cannot describe with words and probably the most overwhelming one could possibly experience, an immense ocean of infinite Love.

“The most beautiful and most profound experience is the sensation of the mystical. It is the sower of all true science. He to whom this emotion is a stranger, who can no longer wonder and stand rapt in awe, is as good as dead. To know that what is impenetrable to us really exists, manifesting itself as the highest wisdom and the most radiant beauty which our dull faculties can comprehend only in their primitive forms - this knowledge, this feeling is at the center of true religiousness.” - Albert Einstein, The Merging of Spirit and Science 

God is not the beard old man in the sky. God cannot be understood with the mind, can only be experienced. It can be experienced when the mind is still and that happens when the ego is dropped.

Look for ways and mystical experiences, they will add immensely to the quality of your life, to your inner peace, to your joy.

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25/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

I remember once I was in a business meeting and they told me that it was very important to see how people saw me and my work so that I could adjust; they told me that, as my work was based on spirituality, I should have changed it as spirituality was ‘airy fairy’.  

I couldn’t disagree more. They had no idea that everything material and spiritual are exactly the same thing.

Many people are hypnotized in their subconscious programs, hypnotized to be, believe, behave in a certain way; they react, not respond, they are judgmental; they have not worked on their shadow and so they will project it onto others. They might project onto others qualities and parts of themselves they still disown, they might project their own values and beliefs rather than knowing that each person has their own values and beliefs.  They might project their ‘have tos’, thinking everybody ‘should’ behave the same. If you listen to them, you could go out of balance, you could doubt of yourself, you could lower your self-esteem and confidence, you could end up feeling bad about yourself. And feeling good about ourselves is the key to success.

But there are also many people who are committed to spiritual growth and to drop their ego and are ready to give you healthy feedback. These are the people to listen to. These are the people who will help you go higher, who will help you become the best you can be, who will help you be magnificent, who will help you be who you truly are.

Be very careful the people whose criticism you listen to, be very careful not to give your power away.

And ultimately remember that the only guru of you is you. Listen to your inner compass.

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24/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

Be Still - painting

You can view it here http://piercarla-paintings.co.uk/42.html

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23/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

Do We Remember How to Love? - painting

You can view it here http://piercarla-paintings.co.uk/41.html

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21/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

No? Then why do you ask yourself to be someone you are not?

I was talking recently with a person who had been bullied for many years and he was saying: ‘I am not asking myself to be someone I am not, I just cannot be myself - I have been a victim of bullying for many years and now my self-esteem is too low.’ Yes, but it is possible to change the situation around by empowering yourself.

You see, the mind is like a computer and the result of whatever we have experienced in our life is in the form of programs, mainly subconscious. If we have experienced bullying, for example, we will have many negative programs which will cause us also to feel bad about ourselves. Now, your mind is yours, right? And who is the master of your mind? You can empower yourself by deciding today to take control of your mind and let go of those programs  and so move from victim to victor.

And once you let go of those programs, you discover you are perfect underneath, a pure masterpiece.

Also, many people are afraid to be who they are because they want approval - the thing is that we have been hypnotized to believe that in order to be accepted we need to be or behave in a certain way.

The truth is that you are magnificent BECAUSE you are the way you are, and you need to have the courage to be yourself. And as Marianne Willamson said in A Return to Love:  

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

WILL YOU DARE BE MAGNIFICENT? 

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17/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

There are many theories on what cross-cultural integration is.

Some say one needs to adapt to the new culture, but what does it mean to adapt? What is integration? Is it becoming like the people in the country? Is it acquiring the same values and beliefs of the country? Would that be psychologically good for the foreigner?

Like the fish in the bowl, often a person is not aware of the impact of their own culture on their subconscious programs, unless they have lived abroad and done personal growth work; they are often not aware of how their culture has shaped their understanding of the world, how people ’should’ be or behave, how they ’should’ lead their life. Being not aware, they are not free, nor connected with who they truly are.

In my opinion saying that a foreigner needs to become like the people of the country in order to integrate is the ‘easy answer’, and it can cause psychological imbalances in the person, as I have seen in expat clients.

Successful integration is a much more complex and flexible process - to adapt and remain true to oneself at the same time.

Saying that the expat would need to acquire the same values and beliefs might cause in the expat denial of who they are and increase of their shadow. If we do not integrate all of who we are, and be who we are, we will hold negativity within ourselves, and we will cause pain for ourselves and contribute to the global negativity.

Perhaps the SOULution is that we all do personal growth work to free from our cultural programming, connect with who we truly are, embrace our shadow and so discover that we are all one at the level of the Soul, that there are common values we all hold, because that is who we are - Love.

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17/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

Here are some thoughts.

I agree that coaching is very helpful and empowering to people - probably a high percentage of the population does not have goals or direction, lives in apathy, they let themselves be lived and react to what they think ’happens’ in the outside world.

But if the goals are not linked with who they are and their purpose on this planet, can they be fulfilling?

If the person is not connected with who they are and love all that they are, how can they feel peace and joy?

Even though they have goals, can people be fulfilled if they do not achieve the foremost goal of Self-Realization, of understanding what they truly are?

How can they feel real fulfillment in relationships if they are not connected at the level of the soul?

And once they have goals and they strive to achieve them, how can they feel not the stress which might come from massive actions, but the peace and ease which comes from alignment with the Spiritual Laws?

As Pierre Teilhard de Chardin said: ‘We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.’

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17/06/2010 by Piercarla Garusi.

Some thoughts on finding one’s purpose which perhaps can be of help:One of the things that prevents people from understanding their purpose is trying to figure things out, but if we try to figure things out, we will never find the answer. This is because the solution does not come from the mind, it comes in the mind when we let go of wanting to know the answer; it comes from a Higher Place in the form of an intuition. Same is for wisdom - we are all connected with an ever present sea of wisdom, but we need to let go of the mind/ego to connect with it. Sometimes people do not know their purpose because they do not love themselves, they think they are unworthy of being unique and special. Every human being is precious, every human being without exception is magnificent, they need to dare be that.There is a beautiful quote which describes it:

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