Whatever we experience in life, even abuse, we have created it - it is our soul creating it and in creating it, it is trying to reconnect us with what we truly are, it is trying to show us we have some pain to heal, we have negative beliefs about ourselves that we have created that reality.
What we need to do is heal that pain, let go of that belief, love ourselves and reconnect with our wholeness.
Now, what do we need to do with the people who ’caused’ us pain? Here is what loving unconditionally comes in. Because we have created it, they are actually giving us a gift in that they show us what we still have not-healed within ourselves. We need to let go of the negative emotions we feel towards them and the issue and let go of resisting everything. And also send them some love and approval.
But loving unconditionally does not mean being stupid, it means recognizing that no wrong was done unto us and send them approval, but it does not mean we need to keep us in situations that are harmful or negative to ourselves. We can love the people, heal ourselves and put ourselves in places/situations that are good for us.
Love yourself!