31/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Imagine one of your employees has cheated on you and you lost a lot of money and clients, or your husband cheated on you, or something else has happened.

Now, if we continue on the train of thoughts that our point of view creates our reality, we hold some points of view that created that.

It is not our fault, we are not guilty, we are not responsible for that, we just hold points of view that created that.

They did it, they chose to do it.

It is not justifying, it is not condoning, it is not the ‘look at the positive’ lie, and maybe we will not have a contact with them again.

But we absolutely need to forgive them, we need to let go of the blame and the wrongness of them, and us being right. This frees them as they are free to change or do whatever they choose. They can stay the same or they can heal themselves. 

And most of all, this frees us. And once we are free and we have let go of the points of view that created that, we can create whatever we want.

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31/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

I believe that the less judgment there is in the culture, the more enlightened it is.

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30/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Two things that are quite insanity:

- having to be perfect - and criticizing people if they are not that, if they are showing some weaknesses, if they have not achieved this or that. This is causing an incredible amount of pressure, it is causing people to go out of balance, anxiety, depression, social anxiety, it is causing people not to be themselves,  and so … not to be perfect.

You are already perfect here and now, you have always been that and you will always be that. Perfection is your very nature. What you perceive as weakenesses or things which need healing are actually not you, they are not who you are.

- in my upbringing love oneself equates to being selfish. One had to deny oneself for others, not to take care of one’s own needs, but to look for what others need. One was responsible for others’ feelings and life. One was supposed to take on themselves another person’s pain, because that was ‘compassion’ - talk about not talking on other people’s energy! This is insanity.

If we do not love ourselves, first of all we will never be able to know what love is, we will never be able to love others, we will never be able to be the magnificent being we are here to be, we will never be able to give our contribution and share our gifts, we will never be able to live our purpose - and ALL of the Universe will miss out, as nobody else will ever do that in your place. Do you understand how important you are?

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29/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

We create our reality with our points of view, true.
And with past lives points of view and other stuff.

But the fact that we are responsible for what we have created, can actually cause a lot of pain and cause us to stay stuck. This is something I have experienced in depth. When we talk about responsibility, there is always some guilt, fault, beating ourselves up and more there.

Also, two important questions raise.

If we are responsible for what we have created, are we responsible for people’s behaviors? No, they choose how they behave.
Will they change when we change? No, it is their choice.

If we fall into the ‘responsibility’ thinking, we fall into thinking we are in control of everything, which is really not true.

We can change our reality by changing our points of view, but what other people are doing is their choice, not our responsibility.

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29/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Beliefs such as:

- you have to look at the positve

- you have to tolerate, meaning putting up with crap

- you have to forgive, meaning stay in negative situations

- ….

will cause you to suffer, maybe to stay in abusive situations. These beliefs could be sometimes used under religious terms by people and they are very destructive.

I remember I heard Rikka Zimmerman say in one audio something like ‘Would an infinite being choose to be abused? No, sorry, go abuse somebody else’.

Now, this is very freeing to me.

Does it feel good to you too? If it does, follow what feels lighter to you, what makes you feel good, what brings you freedom.

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29/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

There was one person who was sharing her experience of current abuse with her husband and the trainer, probably because totally unprepared, made her doubt of her truth, of her perceptions, of the abuse itself.

This is horrible and dangerous. This not simply does not help the person become unstuck, but causes her to feel even worse, become more stuck and beat herself up, as if she was the cause of it.

Never ever doubt your truth, your perceptions.

You know inside what is true for you and you absolutely need to listen and trust that. It is like the Universe telling you: this is not for you, this is going to cause you pain, move elsewhere.

There is a fabulous tool in Access Consciousness which has helped me tremendously and it says:

- the truth for you will always make you feel lighter

- and the lie for you will always make you feel heavier

Use it to tune in to your inner compass, and begin creating your life from that.

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28/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Never ever accept to be put down, to be criticised, to be judged, to be laughed at by a coach, therapist, trainer in whatever technique you choose to study.

It has happened to me so I know what it is, and I dropped out of the course I was studying, it is not the energy I want to be in contact with. It is non acceptable, particularly if somebody is in personal development, so it is supposed to have worked on themselves.

Judgment comes from being unconscious, not spiritually aware, not knowing who and what we are. Judgment can come in the form of sarcasm or laughter, as some of my clients suffering from social anxiety told me. Judgment destroys self-esteem, self-confidence, people, communities.

When we are conscious, there is only love, real love. When we are conscious we are the magnificent being we truly are, we live our purpose, life becomes much easier and love is all there is. With being conscious I mean being in Beingness, when we let go of our negativities/ego we find ourselves there. We find ourselves in oneness and consciousness of all there is.

Raise your standards, ask to be treated well as you deserve and do not settle for anything less.

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27/07/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

I have always doubted which help we can really get from somebody who has not being there, who has not experienced that problem in life. Maybe we go to a therapist, but how much can they really understand if they have not experienced that issue in their life? does study on a book suffice? does experience with other clients suffice?

Sometimes clients ask me: you seem to know this issue so well? how is it possible that you managed to help me through an article more than all the help I have received in these years? how is it possible that you manage to help me in a few sessions whilst I have been many years in therapy? It is simple, I have been through a lot of pain and difficulties in my life, and I also know how painful it is when you go to ask for help to somebody who not simply does not have a clue of what you are talking about, but is also lacking empathy and compassion. If I do not have experience on the issue, I suggest other people they might contact who might be able to truly help them.

I have studied many techniques to help me heal, as I could not find anybody able to do so and I remember the total lack of empathy I got from one trainer in personal development when I went to ask ‘what can I do to heal the emotional abuse I experienced?’.

That is why I urge you to choose carefully before you open yourself up to a person supposedly there to help you. Also, some people become therapists and they are still quite a bit of an ego and if they have not worked through their shadows, there might be projections which will cause you a lot of suffering because you are in a position of being open and vulnerable.

And I would like to bring your attention to somebody I have been listening to recently and who is a truly marvellous person, caring, compassionate, honest, humble and so prepared in so many fields.

Her name is Rikka Zimmerman and is an Access Consciousness Facilitator - she teaches an extraordinary set of tools and techniques to help you shift your life wherever you want. You owe to yourself to find some tools that really work and somebody that really cares - check out her website on www.rikkazimmerman.com.

 With blessings

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