05/09/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

The Lies We Bought As Love - NEW ARTICLE

By Piercarla Garusi

What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to suffer?
What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us not to be happy?
What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us not to love ourselves?
What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to put up with situations that are not good for us?
What are the lies we bought as love that are causing us to stay stuck in manipulative or abusive relationships or to be treated badly?
What are the lies we bought as love that cause us to be abusive?
What are the lies we bought as love that in the name of eliminating separation, are causing pain to people?
What are the lies we bought as love that cause us not to ascend?

If we look around, how many people are suffering of situations that can be avoided?  And I am talking in families, workplaces, communities, and in the world at large.
There is so much judgment and bullying in society to young and adults, that is causing people to suffer from social anxiety, depression and even suicide. If we just found the statistics, I think we would be shocked.
Love and abuse are so confused and so much abuse is done in the name of love. And abuse might be not recognized or even justified by cultural or societal beliefs. How many lives have been destroyed by abuse?
There are so many rules and have tos on how to be loving, that are putting people in destructive traps thinking that that is care or communion.  
How right are we of the beliefs we are holding? And these beliefs might come from society, from culture, from religion, from education, from upbringing, from peers, etc., from the media.

Here are a few important points:

- awareness
We need to become aware of the lies we have bought as love, and see them as lies. They cause people, they cause you to suffer - would God/Source/Consciousness, however concept you have of Him/Her, ever want us to suffer? The answer is absolutely no.  These lies are preventing a positive change on the Planet. These lies also prevent our ascension.

- accountability/responsibility
How much denial or justification do we see of bad behavior, not simply from the people doing the behavior, but from society or culture? Until we become accountable, until we take responsibility for our behavior and we recognize it as such, we will not be able to change. - blame/guilt
Many people do not want to recognize how they have behaved because unfortunately the world is still functioning from blame, guilt and wrongness. We need to get out to that paradigm, because it is preventing people from changing, it is preventing the Planet from healing, and it is keeping the behavior in place. Yes, the behavior might be wrong, but we need to take away the label of wrong as judgment. It was a choice the person made out of their consciousness, probably out of the teachings they had received in their life.  As they recognize the lies they hold and let them go, they can make a better choice for themselves and for the whole.

- respect
We need to enter in a paradigm of sacred respect for each individual, without exception, on this Planet. Once we recognize the uniqueness and truth of each person, much healing will take place.

And probably the best question we can ask ourselves is:

As the Infinite Beings we truly are, what does it mean to Love? And start from there …

Piercarla Garusi Copyright 2011 

Piercarla Garusi is a spiritual coach and painter. Much of her coaching work is currently focused on improving the way we treat one another, with new workshops just being created. More information can be found on www.pgcoaching.co.uk. Her spiritual paintings ‘Art from the Soul’ are for healing and a shift in consciousness. You can find more explanation, view them, find information on exhibitions and healing projects on www.piercarla-paintings.co.uk.    

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03/09/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

There is so much conditioning from society, culture, peers, religion, family, that is preventing so many people from being themselves, from doing what they would really like to do, from loving themselves, from being treated as they would like to be treated, from living their calling for the future of humanity and the Planet.

Now is the time to say f…. it!

There is no better time than now to drop all that you are not, to embrace your true power, to begin creating the life you would really like, to make your contribution.

Just say it and begin being the beautiful and magnificent you.

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31/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Not for me, here is why.

We treat people according, first of all, to our beliefs of what is right, of what is normal, according to our culture, upbringing, education, etc.

Now, if I have the belief that it is ok to control my neighbour, and this could be for a variety of reasons, I will do that. This could be a belief from culture that it is ok to control people if they are foreigners and what they do is not ‘normal’ in that culture, or it could be caused out of fear,  out of insecurity, etc.

And maybe it would be ok for those people if they are controlled by others, and maybe they interpret control as a sign of ‘care’. To me this is a huge violation of privacy and totally unacceptable. 

So perhaps, the Platinum Rule works much better - do onto others as they would like to be treated.

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30/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

A big part of my coaching work is to help bring about a positive shift in the way we treat one another.

There are so many upheavals happening in the world, and it is becoming more and more clear that people will not tolerate any longer to be abused or treated badly. Unconsciousness will need to become consciousness.

And there is one thing that is going to bring about a huge amount of healing and that is recognizing how we have treated others or ourselves. Unless we recognize, unless we become aware, we cannot change. 

And if you have been treated badly, how much healing would it bring to you if people who did what they did to you, actually recognized it instead of denying it maybe saying you made things up? And if they apologized too ….

So many people are totally unconscious of the way they are behaving. There maybe be some subconscious beliefs which say that if you are from the same family, they have the permission to abuse you.

Also they might think if they admit it, they will feel bad, they will be made wrong, etc. That’s a very important point - we also need to get out of the paradigm of guilt, blame, make wrong or bad, that would only prevent healing - we need to move into a paradigm of responsibility.

If we recognize what we have done and we do not make ourselves wrong, we are free to heal and change.

What if the time was now? How much healing would it bring to your relationships, workplace, friendships, communities, and to the Planet?

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28/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Again I have something very positive to say about Britain, as some companies really know some of the keys.

Here are some:

- integrity/honesty
- how well we treat customers - with respect and kindness
- care for client and really mean it
- attention to the client - products created with what is best for the person in mind as a priority
- value
- gratitude
- appreciation
- accountability/responsibility

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26/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Certainly if you are Italian, you suffer from this.

Guilt is a very destructive emotion and you absolutely need to free from it - and whatever other people are saying, let them say. 

Maybe you are made bad and wrong for anything and everything, for not conforming, for not doing what they want, for being you. You are made guilty because you are made responsible for other people, for how they feel, for what they do.

This only builds a trap for you to feel bad about yourself and play small. You need to free from guilt if you are to be the magnificent being you truly are on this Planet and live your contribution. Start today.

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24/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

How many times do we put up with crap, with people who treat us badly? People choose how they behave, it is their responsibility, they are accountable for that.

I remember years ago when I was running a support group for social anxiety, somebody told me: people criticize me because I am shy and get anxious. Now, however we are or feel, there is no justification to criticize or judge us. There is no justification to treat others - and particularly children - badly because we are stressed at work.

Yesterday I was in an hardware shop to buy some stuff for work I need to do in my house. I did not know some technical names for pieces I need for the shower and the people there laughed at me - will I go back in that shop? No. They chose to laugh at me, they are responsible for their behavior - there are so many hardware shops, I will choose one where they treat me right.

Choose people that treat you right as you deserve.

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23/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

You, as each person, is an infinite powerful magnificent being - all that is negative is what we are not.

When we let go of all the negativity, we reconnect with who and what we truly are. We do not need to achieve anything, we do not need to improve ourselves, we do not need to better ourselves, we do not lack anything, we do not miss anything. But we need to let go of ALL we are not. 

There are so many misunderstandings on what love is that is causing pain and suffering to so many people. To understand what love is, we need to reconnect with who and what we truly are. We can begin by asking: what is love from the point of view of infinite being? and allow the Universe to bring the answer to your awareness, you might not be aware of it consciously, but your awareness will know it on some level.

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23/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

I remember growing up I so often found in ’spiritual’ environments that you had to look at the good of the person and mentioning the negative of the person was not an option.

There are a few things to say:

- we need to get out of the blame, guilt, good bad right wrong dualities - this would only prevent people from changing

- if we do not see things fully as they are, we make ourselves stupid - awareness is key to our divine state - we need to see things and people as they are now in order to give them possibility to change and we need to see how people are in order to make choices for our wellbeing and welfare

- people, and we, choose who we are at every moment - we need to enter a new era of total and full responsibility in which we realize where we are, which unconsciousness we have and make choices to let it go

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23/08/2011 by Piercarla Garusi.

Every culture has its beautiful sides, and we need to be open to learn from one another if we are to co-create the shift in the world we truly want.

Now, one of the good things of the culture I come from is that for ‘us’, creating rapport is very natural, it is like saying hello.

I remember when I studied NLP many years ago, there was a lot of stressing on creating rapport, and matching and mirroring - I was looking at them as if they were from another planet, as it was so un-natural to me.

To me, first of all, one has to be totally and fully honest, people are not stupid, they understand when one is trying too hard. And as we are ourselves, we also give permission to ourselves to be magnificent, to be the gift we are here on this Planet to bring.

Then, to create rapport - I will cover this in depths in my new workshops - perhaps you can start by asking yourself: what do I need to feel welcome from another person? And start from there… 

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